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Gemini09 --- 12 years ago -

Would you ask you neighbor to shovel your driveway if you were 9 months pregnant and your husband was gone? Even if you all never really talk much? I did try to get to know them, but they never really tried. I don't ever see them much and I don't think they know how pregnant I am. They may realize my husband is gone because his car has been gone about 2 weeks.

I do have someone else coming to do it, but they live in Forsyth and I am not sure when they are coming.

My neighbor did just shovel his whole drive way and side of the car port and left mine alone. I hate asking for help and am afraid he will be irritated if I do. 

Gemini09 --- 12 years ago -

I tried to edit to say I live in Warner Peterson, but it is not showing up. 

Are we done yet --- 12 years ago -

Idk i wouldnt be able to ask. But thats just me. But if you had an emergency or were to go into labor and needed out of the drive way then your stuck. IS housing working today? If they are working today maybe call the neighborhood office and explain to them that your husbands deployed and you are due any day and need your drive way cleared out incase you were to go into labor and need to get to the hospital. 

Gemini09 --- 12 years ago -

I just want to make sure that I am not being dumb for not asking. If I were to start feeling labor pains then I will bit to bullet and ask him. I just hope they clear all the roads and the person who is coming to help me can get here safely. 

Gemini09 --- 12 years ago -

I really wish they had some sort of program or something for situations like this. Women here have their husband gone all the time, and some like me, shouldn't be shoveling right now. I am half-tempted just to do it myself, but I know if I fall I might hurt myself or the baby.

It is funny, my husband's unit knows I am this pregnant and that he is gone. My best friend's husband knows too, and neither of them have offered to help me out. A woman and her husband that I hardly know are the ones who insisted and told me not to feel bad about asking. 

KingsQueen --- 12 years ago -

We live in Warner and have a snowblower. I know you said you have someone coming but if you'd like someone to come right now I'll send my hubby right over. He's already done 4 people's houses today just to help out and we have 4 wheel drive to get to you too. :) Let me know if we can help! 

Gemini09 --- 12 years ago -

Would you? That would be awesome. I just don't want those people driving all the way up the hill. I have this horrible fear they will crash on their way. What street do you live on? 

KingsQueen --- 12 years ago -

We'd be glad to help! We live on Pickett but he'll come to you wherever you are. If you want to pm me the address I can send him right over. 

Gemini09 --- 12 years ago -

Big shout out to KingsQueen and her husband, thank you very much for clearing my driveway and sidewalk.

You all have taken a big weight off my shoulders. 

KingsQueen --- 12 years ago -

We're happy to help. Let us know if you need anything else before or even after the baby comes! And congratulations too! :) 

Brianna --- 12 years ago -

KQ....good to k ow there are still good people out there who are willing to do a good deed. Kudos to you and your hubby! 

Brianna --- 12 years ago -

Gemini....I can totally understand where you are coming from. I ws very pregnant a few winters ago here and I would not even venture out on the porch because I was afraid of slipping and falling. Pregnancy throws your center of gravity off and the ice does not help it. I ended up using ice cleats if I needed to go outside for anything....but getting your boots on is another issue. Just stay safe and do not risk a slip or fall, you are smart to get help. Congrats! 

militarybrat --- 12 years ago -

I understand also with being pregnant. but when I was and hubby was gone I went outside myself and shoveled the snow myself. I did that and I was 8 months and 9 months prego. I remember doing it one day and my neighbor saw me and by the time he came over to offer help because he was finished with his I was done with my drive way. and I use to stay in forysth. but that he just me 

a4028921uu --- 12 years ago -

Here is the thing, you need to ask when you need help, you cant just wait someone to offer to help you. The worst that can happened is they'll say no 

Gemini09 --- 12 years ago -

I know I need to ask and I had asked people I knew. I just don't know my neighbors well enough to ask. The people I knew were further away.

I really am not trying to go into labor right now. Plus, I don't think anyone should have to shovel snow this late in pregnancy. There are too many risks involved. The midwife told me to avoid any situations that would involve me slipping and falling. 

DollLikeDeceptions --- 12 years ago -

IMO it isn't your neighbor's responsibility to do anything for you just because they are your neighbors, he's in the army like your husband, your husband is gone, you're pregnant, etc.
When I first read this post it sounded to me like you almost felt like he did something wrong by not just automatically clearing off your driveway and sidewalk when he did his, like it was his responsibility.
If you feel like you need help with something then ask for the help, if you don't want to ask your neighbors because you don't really associate with them (I've been there, trust me) then ask someone else. Sometimes people feel obligated to do things for people when they ask them to do something for them and that isn't really fair to the other person...I'm sorry I've re-wrote this response several times because I just don't know how to write what I'm thinking without it coming out snotty 

Gemini09 --- 12 years ago -

Its cool. Thats why I felt hesitant asking him. I didn't want him to do it just because he felt obligated but really didn't want to. Also, I hate confrontation and since I don't really know him, him get an attitude or something. Then, my hormonal butt would not respond well.

I overthink everything too. So, I really wanted to know if I should of asked or not. 

a4028921uu --- 12 years ago -

There are people that help without being asked. But once in awhile those same people like to be asked to help.Cause sometimes not asking for help but expecting it leaves people thinking that the people wanting the help are too good or too proud to ask. Just my opinion 

DollLikeDeceptions --- 12 years ago -

lol I hear you Gemini, my husband has been gone a month now and I couldn't open a jar of olives the other day...I felt so silly having to go to the neighbor and ask the husband to open it for me! 

Gemini09 --- 12 years ago -

I do have a problem accepting help, even if offered. So, having to ask is a big problem for me.

I am usually stubborn and just do everything myself. I knew this time I couldn't get around accepting help.

I am afraid of people holding favors over my head. This is from past experiences in life, so that is why I am this way. 

DollLikeDeceptions --- 12 years ago -

So don't ask for favors. I have a problem making friends with neighbors, especially on post, since I was burned in the past. If I needed something I would post it on RYS or CL or maybe post a note in the community center and pay someone to do it. I'm sure there are a lot of teenage boys that would shovel for a few bucks. 

a4028921uu --- 12 years ago -

Doll...
You are right. And there were few things posted on RYS and CL about snow removal. 

Gemini09 --- 12 years ago -

I forgot to pick up cash before the storm and wasn't going to go out and get it with my kids in tow. Plus, I needed it done before my appointment this morning or just as soon as possible just in case.

I plan on taking some cash out before Monday if we get a lot more. I hope not. 

Gemini09 --- 12 years ago -

Doll, I don't really try to make relationships with my neighbors because while I was growing up I remember my Mom always having trouble with them at every post. I feel like if there is drama by your home, then you could never get away from it.

I do try to at least get on hi/hello, cordial relationship with the people connected to me. I just feel it is weird when our driveways are connected and we don't even know each other at all. 

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