Damn you Army. Hubby was supposed to be off from end of day on Wednesday til 2000 Thursday. Instead he was in and out all day on Thursday and instead of coming home at 0800 Friday they changed it to 1300... Yet, its 1600 and hes still not on his way home. Never mind that I had plans to fly out of town tonight since long before this nonsense was brought up. I want him home. I dont know of any other people around here who go to work and dont ever know when they'll be back home. This is why I dont give a crap about deployments... its not much different than day to day crap for us. 

This is why I dont give a crap about deployments... its not much different than day to day crap for us.


That is such a loaded statement to have made. It is a far cry from the "day to day" crap I deal with when my husband is home. I'll take a week-long lock down here because some punk stole goggles, over being worried if he's been blown up any day of the week. 

I also don't have to jump every time I get an unknown caller on the line, or a strange car pulls up in the drive. Really. 

Well, he'd rather be deployed than deal with the BS he does here. Hes on his third unit, never gets in trouble, is never late, can just do no wrong, but hes treated worse than anyone whos nothing but a dirtbag. I just get tired of the way crap works. All the single soldiers are at home getting started on their drunken weekend. My husband begs to get deployed again to get away from this crap, and since so many make it home everytime, I'm for it too because I'd rather see him happy. 

I never had to worry about phone calls or visitors since he was in constant communication with me during deployment. (Was actually annoying since I expected differently) 

The point is that the stress he deals with here makes him want to do bad things... he didnt have that stress on deployment. Yes, having rockets hit right by him was stressful, it was different. Incoming makes sense when you are in war zone. Nothing that happens here for him ever makes sense. Stuff that doesnt make sense pisses us off. 

That's right up there with the naivety that officers aren't killed in action. 

I never had to worry about phone calls or visitors since he was in constant communication with me during deployment. (Was actually annoying since I expected differently)

Annoying? Really?!?! Talking to your husband and knowing he was safe and missing you was annoying? Wow arent you a gem! I loved and lived for every moment I got to speak to my husband while he was deployed and NEVER found one split second of him being "annoying"
Also don't be so cocky about not having to worry about him since he called or kept in touch. My friends husband called her, then 2 hours later was killed. You sound like a very selfish person! Put your big girl panties on you married a Soldier who belongs to the Army 24/7! 

Wow... where to go with this one. First off let me just say that even on days when my husband does not get home until O'dark thirty I am still happy. Why? Because I know he WILL be home. I might not like that he is late, I might not like that he has not set in stone work hours. All that matters is he is home. If I REALLY REALLY need him I can get to him. When he was deployed our son almost died. I couldn't get to him and he couldn't get to us. Please I know it's hard but look at the big picture. HE IS HOME, you can hold him and touch him and see him and talk to him face to face. It might be late, it might be at odd hours but he is with you. I know it's hard but if you get stressed over it, he will get even more stressed over it. 

I understand what you mean with the deployment thing. When my husband was at Ft. Stewart they did that stuff at work and there would be times I wouldnt see him for weeks just because I was in bed when he got home or left.(Not to mention he was infantry and did field crap and all that happy fun stuff haha) I understand what you mean though and do not think it was appropriate for everyone to jump down your throat for your opinion. 

I never had to worry about phone calls or visitors since he was in constant communication with me during deployment. (Was actually annoying since I expected differently)

I think she meant that it was annoying that the Army says all this stuff but then the opposite happens....maybe? lol... that's how I interpreted it. 

But I do think it's kind of messed up that you don't care about deployments.

You're not the only one who's husband gets home late all the time or is suppose to have the day off and doesn't. If I had a nickel every time that happened to us, we'd be very wealthy people!! 

Expirience (14 Years of it) tells me that soldiers that work late or outside of their scheduled times do so because they lack time management skills for themselves or thier subordinates or they have not prioritized home and work properly. Yes, its going to happen on occasion. But, if its constant then some self checking is due. I can tell you I have only worked 30 minutes "extra" in the last 2 months. And my troops have not worked any "Extra". If your immediate response is that its his bosses fault, i urge you to double check facts. Often what you percieve as "The Army" messing with him, is really a lack of clear communication on his part to you of what his responsabilities are. If its not that then maybe he does not want to be home. 

She was just saying for her personally. She wasnt saying y'all should think less of deployments or anything. I am missing what struck everyones nerves...I guess. 

She was just saying for her personally. She wasnt saying y'all should think less of deployments or anything. I am missing what struck everyones nerves...I guess. 

I wondered what some people were so up in arms about, too. I even thought about turning my head sideways and squinting my eyes to read it to see if I'd missed something...it seems that some of the Riley Undergrounders have missed their calling, because they're obviously full of psychic ability.

I believe I understand completely what notsue said, and she's entitled to feel that way. Some people blow snot and have fits while they're husbands are deployed; some don't. Some people freak out if they go 3 days without hearing from their husbands while they're downrange; some can go weeks without hearing from their spouses and they're okay. It doesn't make either party more right or more wrong. And then of course, in comes the inevitable reading into things and putting words in people's mouths. Sheesh.

Someone else not agreeing with the way she feels isn't going to change her opinion--nor should it. Not to mention the fact she may not have articulated as clearly because she was obviously upset about missing a flight. Wow. 

lmao Tee C. I agree with everything you said.

Holy overreaction people. Sheesh!'
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Here's one for y'all to freak out about:

My husband wants to deploy for the extra money. I agree with him. He is looking forward to deploying. I completely support him 100%.

There ya go. Have at it! lmao


>sits and waits 

I get where you're coming from and have often had the same thoughts. Husband was in the field last week, mon-thurs for medic duty, had to report to work Friday, and has cq duty today until 9am tomorrow morning and will be expected to report to work at 0530 Monday. Our sons birthday was also Tuesday, so he missed yet another birthday (was in bct for his birth, iraq for his first birthday, and now the field for his second.) However, it is their job and I feel we sometimes take advantage of the time they do give us, ie. 4 day weekends, half days, etc. 

I'm glad some sense finally found its way in here...

The bottom line is that being deployed doesnt make my husband hate the army, doesnt make him want to quit or leave or hurt people.

Being here and being treated like crap does.

Thats all there is to it. 

hmmm....if I was new to this chat forum or just a drama starter I could see where people could just skim over what was being written and assume notsue was being a total (cuss word removed)...luckily I've been on here for about as long as notsue and I know that she is far from an army bashing OSMW. I saw what you were trying to say and I just gave up a long time ago with getting upset about the way the army works. The first time my hubby had to go to the barracks and do a "GI Party" I was livid!!! Took my Dad who is a retired E7 to bring me back down to earth and make me realize that he is a soldier first and a husband second. 

Notsue, I get where you're coming from. Let me just ask you, is your husband responsible? Does he do what he's told always? Is he reliable? Has he now or ever received counseling for anything that has to do with the job he's doing?

Same thing happens with my husband all the time. They call on him rather then his single douch bag, lazy, irresponsible friends because they know they can count on him and wont try to sham out of doingtje work. Yes it's irritating that he's always the one to be called on but its what happens. I hope you made your flight on time. 

Notsue, I get where you're coming from. Let me just ask you, is your husband responsible? Does he do what he's told always? Is he reliable? Has he now or ever received counseling for anything that has to do with the job he's doing?

Same thing happens with my husband all the time. They call on him rather then his single douch bag, lazy, irresponsible friends because they know they can count on him and wont try to sham out of doingtje work. Yes it's irritating that he's always the one to be called on but its what happens.

My husband is a senior NCO, and that has been his problem for his entire Army career. It has also been my problem for my entire Army civilian career. If you work hard, are responsible, and have a reputation for getting the job done? More gets piled on you. If you're a horrible soldier/employee who is more trouble than they're worth? You get a pass. It's infuriating.

I always say: no one realizes how much you do until you're not around to do it. 

My husband is a senior NCO, and that has been his problem for his entire Army career. It has also been my problem for my entire Army civilian career. If you work hard, are responsible, and have a reputation for getting the job done? More gets piled on you. If you're a horrible soldier/employee who is more trouble than they're worth? You get a pass. It's infuriating.

I always say: no one realizes how much you do until you're not around to do it.

Well said!!! I couldn't agree more!! 

Yeah, you guys nailed it... 

I get it. My husband is a good NCO. Always has been. He's got good morals and works hard. Guess who always gets stuck working late or doing BS for the other slackers? Yeah, you guessed it. Irritates me to no end. I told him he should just try being a turd like the other 50% of them for a few days and see what actually gets accomplished. Probably nothing. Then he'd get in trouble while the other ones just sit on their arse and collect a paycheck like it's welfare. They need to go back to the ways of the old Army. I used to be in many moons ago...that's how I met my hubby. It's really quite sad how lackadaisical (sp). the Army has become.