I have talked to so many new moms and its like their kids are the boss/adult. They let their kids do whatever the child wants. no bedtime, no rules, hitting mommy and daddy is ok, scream all you want, the child makes the rules?? i just dont get it! no i do NOT agree with child abuse!! Women tell me about how out of control their child is, so i suggest punishments, put him/her in the corner "no i cant do that because they will just walk away or they will just scream the hole time" well the corner isnt meant to fun!! or take away their toys "but then he/she wont have anything to play with" ok and? I just dont understand why parents are so afraid of putting their child in line. No i dont think its right to go beat on your kid. but there is plenty of punishments that kids hate that have nothing to do with physical abuse! when i was kid, my parents didnt beat me. my mother would have me write sentences and my father would have me do sit ups, which made me very good at writing and i had abs of steel up until i had kids,lol. I remember i used to stomp down the hall when my dad made me mad, so the next morning when we woke up he nicely asked me to walk outside with him and told me i dont need shoes we are just going to the patio. When we got out there he said "stomp you feet like you did in the hallway" and i stomped on the ground for what seemed like 10 years and was really 4 minutes. i still to this day do not stomp my feet!! That punishment worked.Straight up! did i stomp for so long and so hard that my feet bled and were bruised? no. they didnt even hurt 10 minutes later!! This is what im talking about though, punishments that help stop the problem!! This isnt directed to any one in particular, and im not saying the people who let their kid get away with everything are bad parents. It just annoys me when my friends are telling me "my daughter kicked me so hard last night it left a bruise" or "my daughter is biting her brother until he bleeds" Its time to stand up and know your role!! Parents be adults and take care of the problem! 

Totally agree. Just one of the reasons I'm picky about who my son gets to play with and which Moms I choose to hang out with. 

Oh gosh, i hung out with a lady ONE time, and for the next week my son was hitting me and throwing things when he got mad because he watched her kid do it! I figured this post would make people mad, but if my parents seen some kids these day, wow! 

So agree with your post! We were just talking about that. My neices and nephews are like that. There is four of them ( two separate families but they live in the same house) and they treat my mom in law like crap. Hitting, biting, telling her no etc... When we go up there I dont even like staying in that house because I dont want my kids to act like that and think its ok. I feel so bad for my mom in law because she is the one at home with them most the time and there parents dont correct there actions a lot of the time. Its so hard to not discipline the kids. Its not my place, not my kids. We have told the parents they need to do something. I cant stand that. My kids would be in some huge trouble if they ever acted like that. I love them dearly but man do they need some serious punishment. 

Most of the women i talk to are afraid the child wont like them if they are "mean". I just always think, your 4 year old is acting this way now, imagine when they are 15 and bigger than you!! 

it doesnt help also when the mom is immature and thinks that her kid repeating inappropriate things she says is just "so cute" coming for the little ones mouth..give it a few years and see how cute it is when others are looking at you and your little heathen. 

It just really chaps my a$$ when you see people talking bad about a child "wow she is a little brat" when really its just the parents fault. the child doesn't know better. 

Agreed! It's like an epidemic..I see it everywhere. Lately I've seen so many little kids doing whatever they feel like, behaving inappropriately in public while the parents stand by and do and say nothing.

I'm w/ you MOGirl. I was brought up "old school" and I raise mine 'old school". I tell my 13 year old, "you don't have to like me, but you HAVE to respect me and my rules" 

People look at me like im the meanest mom in the world just because my kids have a schedule. i dont think its bad. they nap at 11:30-12 and go to sleep around 7-8. I actually had a lady tell me i should keep my kids up til atleast 10pm so they sleep in later and i dont have to wake up so early. my kids wake up around 7am and im ok with that. 

When I was a teacher it amazed me how lax folks were with disciplining their children. If I had a nickel for every parent that told me how amazed they were with how well their children listened to me, I'd have enough money to buy an overpriced item from Riley Yard Sales. "How do you get them to listen to you?" How? Well--here's a thought--I have rules. And--get this: I actually enforce them with consequences when they aren't followed. Crazy, eh?

I've only had one instance where I stepped in with someone's out of control child. He was running around the store like a wild man and just being a real donkey. I stood in line and watched him race to and fro and held my tongue, then when I finally heard him call his mother something that starts with a "B" and rhymes with "witch", before I knew it I'd bent over in his face and said, "Excuse me, you don't talk to your mother that way and you certainly don't use that type of language!" He started crying and I said, "Unh-unh. You made a bad choice so you don't get to be upset." I got ready because the store was really quiet and I thought his mother was about to go nuts but she smiled and said, "Thank you", lol. She looked really tired and weary and I actually felt badly for her. Before I left I talked to him, asked him his name and told him that I was going to give his mother my number so if he acted out again she was going to call me. He nodded his head, lol.

Looking back on it I wouldn't do it again, but I was a newly credentialed teacher and I guess my instincts kicked in. I wish more parental instinct would kick in when it comes to people disciplining their own children though... 

My neighbors are the same way! They have a toddler and he rules the roost. Sometimes he is up till 2 or 3 in the morning....running around and screaming! Drives me nuts!