I just wanted to point something out to people that may not have even realized it was a possibility. Some people have open marriages. I read a lot about women having men over a lot while their husbands are deployed, everyone assumes they are cheating behind their husband's backs. While im sure thats the case in some of these situations, thats may not be the case in all of them. My husband and I have an open marriage, but its mainly utalized when he is deployed. Yes its still an open thing when he is home, yes he knows who and when i sleep with another man. I know who and when he sleeps with another woman. Im not sure if im any of your neighbors, but im sure my neighbors do feel like im a sterotypical army wife that cheats because i do have a boyfriend that comes over pretty often. I let my neighbors think what they want because honestly my sex life is none of their business, but I just want everyone to stop and take a moment to think, the simplest answer isnt always the right one. FYI, im not saying this to be mean. 

Isn't it still against Army laws? Your supposed to honor him while he is gone, not have your b/f come over! Sorry I think its a poor excuse. 

I know some people that were in a open marriage. They agreed on it. She got to hook up while he was gone and then when he got back he got to hook up some too. Different strokes for different folks. Who am I to judge. 

um how is it an excuse when we have chosen to live our lives like that. My boyfriend is actually one of my husband's friends? Yes it is against the military laws, i never said it was legal. I just wanted to voice a possibility that some ppl might not have thought of. And no my husband and I dont consider it cheating since it was a mutual decision and its nothing we hide from each other. 

I've always wondered why would someone be married if they're just getting some on the side. Not starting drama, just a question I've always had just never asked. 

WHY are you married, seriously? I am just dating my b/f and he is gone and I would NEVER consider being with another man right now. This is my opinion I think its disgusting and I think your a sorry excuse for a wife.. AGAIN MY OPINION 

Tammy I understand thats is your opinion, and I wasnt trying to start drama, but to call me a sorry excuse for a wife is a little over the top. I married my husband because I love him with all of my heart. Yes I have a boyfriend that is one of my husband's friends, I dont think that makes me any less of a wife. My husband is turned on watching me with another man, its just something that works for us sexually. Im not saying it works for everyone.

ChristinaE, Id agree with you in certain circumstances. I guess we dont consider it getting some on the side,lol, because its something that we do together when hubby is home. We arent hiding it from each other, and its something we enjoy sexually, sorry if thats TMI. Do I have feelings for my boyfriend, yes, hes a great guy, hes a good family friend. Do I love him, no I dont. I hope that answered your question, atleast thats how it is in our relationship. 

That answered it. Not judging by any means. I'd just kill my husband if it were me. 

Okay maybe I shouldn't of said that, but I just don't get it.. IF you really truly love someone why do you need someone else? 

It started at first as something hubby suggested, he is very much into watching. I love my husband enough that I was willing to give it a try. We just kinda went from there i guess. I truly do love my husband and we have amazing kids together, and there is nothing my bf can do for me sexually that my hubby cant/doesnt as well, but there is something about watching that my husband loves. 

Please tell me your kids know nothing of this? 

Oh gosh no my kids know nothing of this. We dont air our dirty laundry in front of our kids, this only takes place when they are not home. We are very strict about controling what our kids do and do not know about things. They understand that my bf and DH's gf are just family friends. They come to family birthdays, get togethers and other events but the bf/gf also understand that the sexual stuff is behind closed doors at all times. 

He has a g/f too? Oh lord 

lol yes my hubby has a gf. Yes it makes things very interesting. I like her a lot actually. 

I call bullshi* 

I call bullshi*
LOL!!! 

bullsh*t that I like her? Oh Ill be the first to admit it was very rock in the beginning, I didnt like her, certainly didnt like the idea of her being with my husband sexually. We worked past it, I dont enjoy watching them like my husband enjoys watching, but I do enjoy joining them occasionally. 

Maybe you are one of our neighbors.... So what neighborhood do you live in? 

I call bullshi* on this whole post, I think your making this all up.. I think your looking for drama and after this I am done. You just made this name up and the story keeps getting better and better;) Enjoy 

lol erin you are funny if you think I would tell you where I live. Even if i didnt have a lifestyle people disagreed with I wouldnt share that kind of information over the internet with complete strangers. 

What happens if one of you end up pregnant?? 

Tammy, im not looking for drama, Im a regular poster on here under a different name. Im not ready for the whole world to know my sexual business, thats why i made up the screen name. Open marriages while I think they are still pretty rare, are real and are practiced by real people and maybe even your neighbors. 

Hubby got clipped after we had our last child and my bf is clipped as well, and we do practice safe sex using condoms and dental dams. 

Ok so you gave it a try on his suggestions and you didn't like him being with another girl then you just gave in. Do you have no say in your marriage? How anybody can sit through watching their husband bang some other chick and not beat the s**t outta both of them is beyond me. What the he'll is wrong with you? Also, you say the whole thing started because he likes to watch you yet he's deployed right right? Unless you're skyping, how is he seeing you? Also your little lifestyle is not gonna stay a secret from your kids forever. How are you gonna feel when they know mommy and daddy have bf and gf? I'm thinking ashamed. And you should be. Why get married in the first place? 

either way dont you dare claim to be a faithful wife to your husband, your only with a man while hes away why? because you cant be faithful and wait for him is it to hard? just dont you dare say your a good faithful and true army wife your no where near, whats the point in even being married if you cant handle him being away, its tasteless. you really should be ashamed of such lifestyle 

Also why would you chose to live on post if you have this type of relationship? You could be the nicest person in the world but when you are on an army instalation and open for business, you are bringing disgrace to your family. Do you not think that other kids that live around you hear what their mothers say about you? Don't you know kids are cruel and will tell you kids and taunt them. I just don't get it. 

girltoni, Yes I fully understand our lifestyle wont stay secret forever, and im not sure how we will handle it at that point. I dont have all the answers to all the questions our sex lives raise. Im not ashamed by what hubby and I do, if I was we wouldnt do it, but I also dont care to be looked down upon. And yeah I just kinda gave into my DH's desires, not saying thats the right or perfect way to handle his sexual desires, but once again it works for us right now. There is nothing wrong with me, we just have a less than mainstream sexual practice. 

Theres tons of people like you...the only difference is most of them keep their sex life private and dont post it on public forums. Instead they just live their life and dont give a rats butt what people say or think. I dont really know what the point in posting this on here was. Who cares what people think of whoever?!?! If people wanted to learn about it...thats why they created Google haha. 

No there was nothing wrong with you before the open marriage. You can have a great, mind blowing sex life with the man that you married. If you share every single part of your life with someone other then your husband, then what do you have left? 

girltoni, i dont live on base i live in a nearby neighborhood, but im still surrounded by other military families.

handbaglady, please dont tell me not to claim to be something. Not once did I say I was faithful, not once did I say i was only with my bf when dh is away, dh joins in and watches. Nor did I say I cant handle dh being away, we are on our 4th deployment and he has been to korea as well alone, and we didnt always have this type of sexual relationship. This have changed sexually and im sure they will eventually change again.