I am new to Riley.
Tried to go to some meetings. Not good.
Seems like the clubs did not want new people at them. I am talking about the ofiicer club. they were so rude.
It seem there is nothing in town to do. Coming from Hood they are so much nicer. 

everyone at fort riley is stuck up your best bet is to talk to people at the commissary and strike up a conversation. Don't trust people at fort riley they steal and lie. 

Lol wtf ... Wow some one has issues. But anyway we have been here 2 years and no one has lied or stole from me , oh and I live on Fort Riley lol. You tell her to avoid everyone on fort Riley yet you tell her to talk to people at the commissary? Last time I checked the commissary was still located on Fort Riley.
What are you looking to do? Are you only trying to find clubs to join? Or just stuff to do in general.
Also I read they are doing away with officer/enlisted spouses club and combining them. Since wives dont and shouldn't wear rank. 

I am just looking to meet people. It seem everywhere I have gone people are mean. My husband deployed right after we got here. I am not one that wears her husband's rank. I just went to some meeting and was treated very rude, then someone saw my last name and ask if my husband was "so and so" I just said yes. this person had be so rude from day one to me. I was not going to sit there and be friends after she figured out who I was. We are waiting for base housing now, hope that will help. I maybe the joint clubs will help some of the wives that do wear their husband's rank come down to earth! The president of the club I thought was a gen. wife,(far from it) she was so mean! I was told her husband does not even live here he has been gone over a year and has pcs to another post! I would never leave my husband. I just hope I figure this post out! I hope to get a job, find a group that has fun people. 

We have an officer wives club? Where was my invite :(. Any ways been here a year and mostly keep to myself. Not necessarily by choice but some people think its weird to watch anime and read manga and make costumes for comic con.... And play video game... There are no many people around here that are my age that have the same interests. 

I found it on facebook. I did not get an invite. I do not think the wish "outsiders" in. 

Wow pink I'm sorry you were treated like that. Not ALL people on here are rude, I for one am not. Have you looked into joining the fort Riley historical group? I was going to but just never got around to it and since my husband retires in a year there's no sense in doing it now. 

I have been here living on post for 15 months now. I have yet to met another spouse from my husbands squadron. We r Air Force. The only friends i have r the ones ive made through work, because i wont sit at home and throw myself a pitty party. My house on the hill was robbed twice in march. Once for all my hubbies paintball gear then again for tools. Id tell u to volunteer or get a job there are some really good people here. Dont let the bad ones bring u down. 

everyone at fort riley is stuck up

Well that's nice of you to say, considering most of the people on this message board fall under that generalization...sheesh!

I'm at Ft. Riley, and I'm not stuck up. The trick is to meeting people who have common interests with you. The officers club is probably just a mish mash of people from all different places with all different personalities. It's much harder to make friends in settings like that.

If you like to work out, go to the gym and try to talk to someone next to you on the treadmill. If you're interested in a certain type of hobby/craft/pastime, try to find a club (on or off post) that does that kind of thing. If you have kids, you can try a MOPS group or playgroup. If you like sports, try to find a league of some sort.

I have only been here since last fall and I have made a few friends from the FRG, and several through our church. I have a 1 yr old, so it makes it hard to get to clubs and things like that because of having to find a babysitter for everything. I also work 3 days a week, so that keeps me frome doing a lot of other things as well.

I have only met a couple people here who I would call "stuck up". 

Id tell u to volunteer or get a job there are some really good people here.

Agreed! Two great ways to meet motivated people. 

There is plenty to do here. You just have to look harder. Everything JPaint said was on point.

Go to the ACS, and ask about all the classes they have. You may meet some friend in those. I recommend the resilient spouse academy.

There are very few people who are actually stuck up. I am an enlisted wife, and know many officer wives who are not stuck up.

A place is what you make of it. You just have to have a positive attitude about it.

And there are many reasons as to why a women would not move with her husband. (Teenager wants to graduate here or finishing college for example) It shouldn't matter to you, because that is none of your business. 

Jpaint I am totally with you. Riley works if you find people with common interests.

I remember feeling like you when we got here and I was terribly lonely. Fort Riley is different than any other place I've been.

Once I got involved with things that I already like I made more good friends than I've ever had. We love Jesus and my children go to St Xavier in town so everything I volunteer with there
Already puts me in a category with women who were around my age and have the same values.
I joined the military council for Catholic women, again instant lifelong friendships. (come out with us! We will love you! :)

Please don't be discouraged! You will find uk

Pleas 

Hahahahah stupid iPhone ... You will find your way and good friends. Fort Riley isn't as easy as other places to move into but I bet you will end up loving it! God bless! 

I'm not stuck up... I just keep to myself because my neighbors dont even respond back with a hi when I say hi to them. They look at me like I'm crazy for even attempting to talk to them.

My husband has been in three units now since being here, and had also deployed right after first being stationed here. I know three women from his first unit and only one of the three come close to being a friend. The first units FRG was the only one that I had spent any time with, and I did feel like everyone had made their friends already. Even tho nobody was not nice to me, they also had no interest in being involved with me besides at the meeting. So I looked forward to going to meetings because that was the only time I'd be around other adults who couldnt leave the room when I got there.

The best way to find friends is to have a job, because relying on spouses in your husbands unit, or other spouses that share your husbands rank is just cutting the pool a little to slim. Having that one thing in common is not enough to build a decent friendship on.

I've learned to not focus on how many friends I have and how people treat me. Instead I just go on about my business and enjoy life less complicated. When the right person/people come along, I'll be here, but if they never show up... I wont lose any sleep over it. 

I'm not stuck up... I just keep to myself because my neighbors dont even respond back with a hi when I say hi to them. They look at me like I'm crazy for even attempting to talk to them.


Haha, our neighbors are the same way..well that and when I did say hi she looked stoned off her butt lol. I haven't met too many people around here and next month will be about a 1 and 1/2 since I've been here, but the people I have met either only want to hangout / talk when their spouse is away, they need something, etc. I just stay positive and If I meet some good people, then that's great, but I'm not going out of my way to do so since that doesn't seem to work lol. I'm kinda like you notsue - I just stay to myself and take care of my business and go on with my day. In my spare / free time I like going thrift shopping, going to the gym, and so on. I've always been one that likes to go to the movies alone, I don't care what people think lol. Some people would be like "Aww, I'm sorry wish I could go with you...blahblah", I'm like don't be sorry I WANT to go by myself...it's peaceful and relaxing :) I'm starting back to school next month and hope to do some volunteering. There's also events on posts sometimes. Some things coming up include: Daughtry concert (FREE June 10th), Action Figure Therapy Comedy Show (@Rally Point May 11th/12th $10 at door...we're sooo there lol), A cinco de mayo dinner, and more.
About the wearing rank deal, oh gosh I've met a few of "those" women (or "career wearing" haha) or they always try to make their husband or themselves look/feel so much better than you(others).. no thank you! I'd like to get a job, but I feel school is more beneficial in the long run for myself/us. If I feel I can handle my school workload and a job I'm definitely going to get a job to keep busy :) I always worked full time while I was in high school, but I don't want to get overwhelmed this time around.
This might not be the best place or a whole ton of things to do, but there are at least some thing to keep you busy. Stay positive and best of luck to you :) 

Thank you for the helpe
I have seen some signes for Rally point, I am trying to get use to the circles on post! It seems I go one way and find my way totally on the other side of the post!
Daughty sounds wonderful! 

Haha, our neighbors are the same way..well that and when I did say hi she looked stoned off her butt lol.

LOL! The visual on that is too funny :D! I mean, how does one react? What do you say? LOL! 

LOL! The visual on that is too funny :D! I mean, how does one react? What do you say? LOL!

Oh gosh, I was just thinking "Oh what friendly neighbors" (umm well kind of?? lol) 

Daughty sounds wonderful! 



Yep! I'm so going. I'm taking my mom and my best friend :) 

I have been here since 2006 and have managed to come accross all types of people. Its taught me to talk to people that have their priorities together. I have been put in some strange positions because of people that want to cheat and tell, or people that want to take advantage of the Army. You learn how to spot them I guess.

I agree, doing something you enjoy puts it in motion and from there you can see who you have things in common with.

I used to be that neighbor that stays inside and doesnt talk to people. Now I am actually good friends with my neighbors. We are older in our late 20's and mid 30's so the petty drama is pretty much non existent.

Chin up, you will settle in...just takes some time. 

We are older in our late 20's and mid 30's so the petty drama is pretty much non existent.


Oh my, drama seems to always be at our neighbors across the street. The ones I mentioned before that party every weekend, have no consideration of their neighbors, and seems to always end in some sort of bad way (can literally hear it all through the windows). We're in our early 20's, but not like the "usual" early 20's people I guess you could say. Neither of us like to party or things like that. We like the simple things (well not like outdoorsy stuff - at least not me LoL). 

I feel ya we've been here for a year and a half and I still don't have anyone to hang out with 

The way I met the most ppl was thru CYS (child and youth sports) If you dont have kiddos.....Im not sure how.....sorry...it can be hard to meet ppl, I usually dont socialize with my neighbors at first, I watch them for awhile....I know that sounds weird but I learned the hard way about neighbors....so I am just cautious.
The movie theater in manhattan is nice...havent been to the one in JC. There is lots to do in Kansas city and there is a wonderful zoo in Omaha as well as museums.
The underground salt museum is fantastic in Hutchinson although children under 4 cannot go underground.

I wish you lots of luck....It was a hard adjustment for me. 

There is a new wives club that has been formed - I will send you an invite! A lot of wives have been going! We leave DRAMA, Rank at the door and meet twice a month for lunch or dinner and an event! It has been wonderful!! This has been formed from wives that walked out of the old one! 

Come volunteer at the USO. We have many spouses who are experiencing deployments and/or are new to the area who come here and help out in a positive environment and get to know others. You can stop by for a tour of the center (next to Burger King) or sign up at www.usovolunteer.org - we are a non-profit so its volunteers who keep the center running! 

Come volunteer at the USO. We have many spouses who are experiencing deployments and/or are new to the area who come here and help out in a positive environment and get to know others. You can stop by for a tour of the center (next to Burger King) or sign up at www.usovolunteer.org - we are a non-profit so its volunteers who keep the center running! 

I have been here living on post for 15 months now. I have yet to met another spouse from my husbands squadron. We r Air Force. The only friends i have r the ones ive made through work, because i wont sit at home and throw myself a pitty party. My house on the hill was robbed twice in march. Once for all my hubbies paintball gear then again for tools. Id tell u to volunteer or get a job there are some really good people here. Dont let the bad ones bring u down.

Anyone interested in starting a crafting club? I really like crafting but I need someone to visit with while I am painting or whatever it is I am into at that time. We can get together twice a month and swap houses if you want. 

susanp68 I think that is an awesome idea! I know a friend that does one in Manhattan. I need some motivation to start doing all my Pinterest projects lol. 

I think a crafting club would be awesome. Only downside is that I work full time Monday thru Friday. So I would need something on weekends or evenings.